Live simply, Appreciate more & Expect less!

Expectations are truly an inevitable aspect of life. We grow up, listening to our parents tells us about the expectations they have from us..when an exam approaches, our teachers remind us of their expectations..as time passes, we are faced with increasing expectations from every single relationship and person we meet! It seems to me that everything we do and say is somehow or the other, always influenced by these expectations of others and it becomes the biggest challenge for us.
Yet, the sad thing is that though we try so hard our efforts go unnoticed most of the time. My belief is that if a person doesnt have the time to appreciate us, they have absolutely no right to have any expectations from us..
I cant help thinking how different life would be if it were not centered on so many expectations and if we had the choice to live life on our own terms. It would be such a lovely change if our parents would stop by while we are studying and say a few nice words and appreciate us, rather than remind us of all their expecatations..

The Epic Heart-breaks.

We've all heard about the ups and downs of relationships. At some point, we all have experienced and been through the bitter process of major and minor heart-breaks. For me, the worst feeling in life had always been to lose people I love (though it happens quite frequently!). But I guess, it is an inevitable part of life..

We meet someone and initially, everything is EPIC. But then, the sun rises and reality set in..and the reality is that no relationship (whether it be friendship or a romantic relationship) is ever perfect. We all know this deep down, yet I wonder why it SO difficult for us to actually digest it?

I've lost a lot of loved ones in my life and everytime, when they leave I blame my fate and it feels like the end of the world..and the weird thing is that no matter how many times the same thing repeats the feelings stays the same.

So I gave this whole thing a thought and I found my answer in a Stephanie Meyer's novel. It says, 

"When life offers a dream so far beyond any of our expectations,it's unreasonable to grieve when it ends"..

Every person we meet in life and every relationship brings so many good stuff along with it..we learn so much and sometimes they leave memories to treasure for a life time..it truly feels epic..but when it ends, it's stupid to wish it never happened..

So from now on, I've decided that I'm gonna stop blaming my fate everytime the unexpected happens. I'm gonna start believing that aims are at the knowns and look for the bright side of every relationship..lets see how how far it works!

Waiting for My Time to Shine

Well, I got a question..Do you guyz ever feel like ur an alien from another planet and that u JUST dont fit in wid the rest of the world?? I know it sounds insane, but that's exactly how I feel right now : Like an outsider. I sometimes think that there's a glitch in my brain..and that makes me anxious of myself. I think a hundred times before doing anything, and yet once itz done I keep thinking of the 101 ways I cud've done it better :/ 
I keep on waiting to find something I'm gud at doing, but it turns I have no talents at all (apart from being able to write down my feelings for hours! ^^)..I have no artistic skills, I can't sing or dance, I'm not athletic..I'm just SO boring and plain, ain't I?? And I feel like it's so unfair..somepeople has got it all..the looks and the brains, whereas I'm DUMB and PLAIN..
And the wierdest thing is, I'm writing all of this down right now and the next moment I'd be thinking "what the hell"! It's like I don't have any power over my own opinions either. >.< My thought process is like a constantly changing kaleidoscope, only it's not SO bright. 
I see something I don't approve of and I just can't shut my mouth until I say it out loud. And I have this totally compulsive disorder to be ALWAYS right.. and I sometimes have a  pathological need to be right and that leads to arguments with my friends. They judge me as rude, selfish and posessive but I wish they would look past those flaws and look on the brighter side. Now everyone has a brighter side, don't they?
 I just wish I could figure out mine, and find my niche in this world.

One of my all-time favrite song! (:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iP6XpLQM2Cs

Kesha <3

What goes, comes around!

Well, we had our speaking exam today and I got the topic “People don’t exactly care about each other anymore”. When I gave it a thought, I realized it is actually true. It’s almost as if people don’t have the time or the reason to stop and think about others.

In this competitive world, we are all determined by the expectations and success of others. We have so much to do, so many dreams to fulfill, so many expectations to meet up and so many new things to learn that we become self-obsessed. We forget that we have a responsibility to care about others and be considerate. We fail to stop and think about the people and things around us. We become so self-centered that we only see ourselves and our goals and in the course of reaching success we shatter the dreams of so many others. And YET, we somehow expect people to care about us and reflect upon our emotions!

So maybe it’s time for us to change our paradigm on this. It is good to be self-absorbed up to some extent, but if we want our feelings and our rights to be considered in front of others, we need to start treating the others the same way. “What we give is what we get” so we got to start from the man in the mirror and start thinking about others and treat them the right way. And then, we could expect the same treatment from others J

Rights or responsibilities??

Well, today I heard something one of my classmates said and it got me thinking. The student was late to school and the teacher asked him why he was late. And his reply was “I couldn’t get up in time”. The teacher very gently advised him not to repeat it and in a very irritated tone he said “This is a free democratic country and I have the ultimate RIGHT to do whatever I want”
There were two things which caught my attention. The 1^st thing was the way he talked to the teacher and the next thing was his attitude. If the youth of the nation who will be the adults of tomorrow feels that since it is a democratic country and they could do “whatever they wish”, our country is surely in for a lot of trouble! Maybe they are also learning from the big picture where the adults are also demonstrating a similar mind-set.

What we see in our society today is totally disagreeable. Right from the top of the hierarchy to the very lowest level, we see people blaming each other. The administrative authorities of the government are blaming the law makers and they say that the problems are in the implementation stage. However, what I feel is that it is futile to find out who is to be blamed. What we need to do today is start taking responsibilities. It doesn’t matter whether the cause of the issues in our society is due to the dictatorship of the last president or whether the current government’s policies are responsible for it. What counts is the solution. Every individual needs to start thinking one step ahead and ask themselves what they could do to contribute to the betterment of the situation as an individual citizen. We all need to be more responsible and respect each other’s rights. If the individuals are responsible for their actions, there would be no rape cases or gang fights at all!

As a young mind growing up in a society filled with crimes and social issues I personally feel really concerned about what kind of future we would have. Today, even the students could only see that they have the right to education so they are just using their right to fill in their time. And unfortunately they fail to realize that they have a huge responsibility to utilize the right in the best possible way.  If not, what is the point of government spending such a huge amount on education??? This is something all the Maldivian students truly need to consider: it doesn’t matter what is happening in the rest of the society. Our business today is to study and serve our nation tomorrow… Even if it is a free country, respecting the teachers and elders is our RESPONSIBILITY.

My Passion

“Laws are the backbones of a nation”, I strongly believe in this statement. Without laws and rules there would be no order and peace in the society. The society would be a center for crimes and the whole youth would be affected by it. Consequently, it would affect the nation’s development and eventually destroy its whole identity. Similarly, it is pivotal that there should be some people to implement these laws. Since childhood, my dream has been to serve my nation as a lawyer. This might’ve been primarily because of my strong faith in law and justice. I personally believe that they hold positions of great responsibilities and are obliged to adhere to a strict code of ethics.

My belief is that “A law is valuable, not because it is law but because there is right in it”. I also believe that we should abide by rules and regulations in whatever we do, in order to do something properly and impeccably. If we consider a nation as a whole, it would be virtually paving its way towards destruction without any laws or people to implement it. Especially, in this modern time where people have started to live by “instincts” rather than “Principles” it has become very essential. Everywhere we look at we could see crime rates rising up and jails filling up with unscrupulous youngsters.

As a person who loves changes, it’s my vision to bring a change to this situation. However, in order to turn this vision into reality, a lot of work needs to be done. Initially, the public needs to be more aware of it. Though there is a law or constitution, the public has no knowledge about it. In this situation, do you think it would have any affect on their actions? Secondly, the laws need to be implemented more seriously. Serious in the sense, it needs to be done in an indifferent way regardless of social backgrounds, financial status and family, in the rigid boundaries of justice.  If these two things could be done affectively, I believe that the nation would be able to find solutions to many problems. However, in order to carry out these tasks, a nation would require well-educated, broad-minded, determined and hardworking young people with a great attitude. That’s where I want to make my contribution.  I want to lend a helping hand to the people working for legal reform and work hand in hand with them to bring our nation to a safe shore. I want to do all I can and try to be a valuable asset to the nation by helping its people and doing my role in its legal reform.

This is my vision and my dream. “We can achieve what we aspire through hard work and persistence”, this is what I’ve been working on for the past years. It’s a dream which includes all my passions; Law, rendering my service, serving my nation and bringing a change.